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In a recent article written by David Popenoe, some of the more common facts vs. myths pertaining to divorce were laid out. It's a good idea to have a clear concept of what is truth & what is fiction when it comes to this subject. Following are a few of these myths and facts concerning the subject of divorce.

Myth # 1:  Second marriages tend to be more successful than first marriages because people learn from their bad experiences.

The Truth: Although many people who divorce have successful second (or even third marriages,) the divorce rate of remarriages is in fact higher than that of first marriages.

Myth #2 : Having a children  together will help prevent divorce and enable a couple to improve their marital satisfaction.

The Truth: Studies have shown that the most stressful time in a marriage is after the first child is born. There is only a slightly decreased risk of divorce for couples who have children compared to couples who have no children, but the decreased risk is far less than it used to be when parents with marital problems were more likely to stay together " just for the sake of the children." Part two of   "The Facts and  Myths of Divorce"  to come soon."

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Divorce doesn’t always have to be a messy, complicated process. It’s very possible for a divorce to be done in a civil and respectful manner, even when issues that are normally hotly contested are involved, such as property division or child custody .

Despite what some people might tell you, there are ways to have a successful divorce. The Vancouver Sun recently published an article that provides several tips to keep in mind both before and during the divorce process to increase your chances of resolving your divorce successfully:

• Put the love for your children before your dislike of your husband or wife.
• Do not fight in front of your children.
• Make sure your children still have access to both sides of their family.
• Understand that your children will be dealing with their own emotions.
• Make educated decisions instead of emotional ones.
• Seek out professional or expert support on every topic. Although you will have a legal expert in your attorney, feel free to speak with financial planners, tax experts, child psychologists, etc.
• Remember money is an important issue for both you and your ex. Make sure you are in the right mindset to discuss it.
• When it comes to dividing your assets and investments, make sure you understand the full scope of them, such as their risks, outlook, tax implications, costs, etc., then make an educated decision.
• Make sure you are on the ball with your financial situation, and that you have a solid understanding of where you stand financially.
• Surround yourself with people who can help you deal with the non-legal aspects of your divorce. If you don’t like your ex’s parenting skills, find a family law expert who can help you deal with this.
• When you’re feeling sad or angry, focus on things that make you feel happy. Go on a run, read a good book, have lunch with friends, pursue a hobby, just do something that takes your mind off the divorce and reminds you that you love life.

A Jacksonville divorce attorney at Ellerin Hutchinson would be happy to provide you with information and resources to help you get through your divorce successfully. We understand how emotionally taxing a divorce can be, and want to make sure the divorce process is as easy for you as possible. To schedule an appointment to discuss your divorce, contact the office today at (904) 866-4489!